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wan nur erina amira
I'm a girl who is travelling in His world. Seeking Allah's pleasure. I used to create a story about people I used to know and also my own story. Don't get offended. If you think you can't accept the way I am, then please back off. I am okay without you. I have Allah :) tweet Credits
| Jalan dakwah
"Jalan dakwah ada banyak duri. Kalau terpijak, takpe. Allah ada. Allah akan pulihkan."
Kesat air mata.
Sahabat sahabat yang aku tak pernah bertemu. Yang tak pernah aku kenal.
Ada. Ada blog ada twitter ada facebook ada instagram ada wechat.
Untuk apa?
Untuk dapat Mardhatillah.
Untuk ajak orang lain masuk syurga reramai. Salah ke aku?
Salah ke aku memainkan jari jemari di atas keyboard itu untuk menarik minat mereka yang masih terkapai kapai?
Aku. Dulu pun begitu, Pernah terkapai kapai. Dilambung ombak.
Namun.
Hidayah Allah datang dalam pelbagai bentuk dan rupa.
Dulu. Aku terdetik untuk berubah. Pun dengan melayai laman blog Islamik.
Mula mula hati tertarik dengan gaya penulisan dia.
Lama-lama. Hati ini bagai dicuit Hidayah Allah. Aku pun ada terkesan dan tersentap dengan post dan tweet dakwah. Hidayah Allah boleh datang dalam pelbagai bentuk. Love is blind. So do hidayah Allah. Mencuit hati sesiapa sahaja. Dimana sahaja. Bila-bila masa. Dengan izin yang Maha Esa. Lalu ku cuba. Aku cuba mengajak. Bukan memaksa. Mereka mereka yang masih seperti aku yang dahagakan cinta Allah. Yang merasakan jiwa mereka kosong. Yang merasakan lifeless. Untuk sama-sama berubah. Mulakan langkah. Kemana? KeSyurga.  Sekali lagi aku. Aku tanya. Salah ke aku? Niat disalah erti. Allahuakbar. Allah Allah. Aku manusia. Ada hati dan perasaan, bisa marah, bisa nangis. Apa yang harus aku buat? Harus lakukan? Semua entry dan tweet yang aku sampaikan. Ada maksud. Bukan saja-saja. Bukan sekadar ingin meraih followers mahupun perhatian. Aku ingin. Kita semua sedar dan insaf akan dunia yang kian nazak. Iman kita. Gawat! Kegawatan ini mungkin akan menjerumuskan kita ke neraka. Tempat yang paling ditakuti. Azab Allah disitu. Sungguh, aku tak sanggup. Justeru.. Marratan ukhra aku tanyakan. Salahkah aku berdakwah? Cara aku. Gaya aku. Mungkin ala-ala nak sama dengan orang lain. Tapi.. Aku yakin. Destinasi kita sama. Sepoyo mana pun seorang Dai'e itu. Dia tetap inginkan Syurga. Matlamat. Raih cinta Allah. Dan. Ajak semua usaha nak masuk syurga. Salah kah aku? Dulu, aku seorang yang jahir. Sekarang pun mungkin. Namun, Aku, insan biasa . Yang bisa berubah. Manusia yang secara lumrahnya sukakan kebaikan. Memang. Ilmu aku hanya sedikit. Sedikit sangat. Jadi, aku mencari, sambil memberi.. Salah kah aku? Dosa yang lalu. Kenapa harus diungkit lagi? Semua pendosa yang masih hidup di bumi Allah ini. Layak untuk berubah. Punya hak. Lantas. Siapa kau untuk menilai dan menghukum aku? Kau. Aku. Kita semua. Punya dosa. Beza kita. Kembali ke pangkal jalan atau terus berjalan ke hujung dunia. Syurga atau neraka. Aku pilih. Aku yang tentukan. Aku yang harus usahakan. Kau tak punya hak. Untuk menilai. Untuk menghukum aku. Yang punya hak itu, Allah. Aku. Tak hebat, Tiada kuasa. Aku kuat kerana Dia. Aku mohon ampun. Aku tak bisa memuaskan hati semua orang. Sekali lagi. Aku mohon ampun. Dari hujung kaki ke hujung rambut. Terima kasih atas segala cemuhan dan pahala free yang dipindahkan kepada aku. Alhamdulillah.  Semoga sahabat sentiasa meredhai setiap langkahmu. Wahai Sahabat Fillah. Nafsu atau iman?
Tidak salah jatuh cinta
Perasaan itu fitrah anugerah Allah
Tumbuh dalam diri setiap manusia..
Cuma
Seperti apa dan bagaimana
Kita mengemudikan perasaan cinta
Dengan jalan iman atau nafsu semata mata
Bila kita rasa
Hati tak tersengaja
'Tersangkut' pada sesiapa
Jangan mudah kata ianya cinta
Jangan terlalu melayan
Dengan asyiknya perasaan
Yang tak diundang, sebab
Sebab
Ianya akan memberi kesan
Kepada hati, hati kita
Mungkin
Terlalu memandang paras rupa
Wajahnya
Terkesima dengan gayanya
Terpesona dengan tuturnya
Katanya
Yang di dengar indah di telinga
Istighfar
Ya. Itu ubat mujarab
Taubatlah sebaik baiknya
Singkirkan perasaan bukan bukan
Doa.
Ya. Jalan terakhir bila mana kita rindu
Doa luah pada pemilik hatinya
Iaitu Allah
Bukan luah pada dia
Hah! Kata ahli agama
Jatuh cinta itu penyakit
Pernikahan sebagai ubatnya
Cinta
Siapa boleh kawal apabila jatuh cinta? Kalau dah jatuh cinta, jatuhlah juga.
Kadang kadang sebab terjumpa, ternampak atau sekadar mendengar cerita. Begitu peliknya cinta. Kenapa boleh jadi begini? Sebab cinta ini fitrah manusia. Manusia memang ada fitrah untuk mencintai dan dicintai.
Tetapi
Cinta itu hendaklah dibina atas dasar keimanan. Jangan cinta mengawal keimanan kita. Tetapi biarlah, keimanan kita mengawal cinta.
Sebab itulah, cinta itu perlu diiringi pengorbanan. Bukan korbankan maruah, harta atau masa untuk pasangan kita. Tetapi, kita kena korban kan masa, harta dan diri kita untuk tarbiyah diri agar kita bersedia membina keluarga yang diredhai Allah.
Inshaallah kita berada atas kebenaran. Jangan sisihkan rasa cinta itu, kawal cinta itu. Jika ada perasaan bimbang, cinta itu akan membuat kita terkeluar dari redha Allah. Itu tandanya kita mempunyai sensitiviti yang tinggi.
Cinta tidak salah.
Siapa yang mengharamkan cinta, dia yang sebenarnya mengharamkan fitrah manusia. Islam tidak turun untuk mengharamkan fitrah. Islam turun untuk mengajar manusia mengawalnya.
Sekiranya benar cinta, mesti kita mahu bersama hingga ke Jannah. Apa apa yang membawa ke neraka, itu bukan cinta namanya.
Luahan hati seorang hamba
Dengan harapan,
Everything is back to normal.
Tapi menyimpang jauh beb,
Sangkaan aku,
It's still the same.
Allah,
Sungguh semua ini ujian,
Sungguh hati ini diuji.
Sungguh,
Sebenarnya aku tak sanggup lagi.
Nak lari,
Nak bawa diri,
Nak pergi dari sini.
Aku tak minta banyak,
Cuma tolong,
Kembalikan keaadaan kita seperti biasa.
Kau orang yang aku kenal,
Dah lain.
Dan aku kecewa.
***
Aku tahu aku selalu buat silap,
Aku bising,
Aku tak pandai nak jaga hati orang.
Tapi jangan,
Sebab aku tak sempurna,
Hati aku kau anggap macam rumput,
Boleh pijak bila-bila masa kau suka,
Boleh tenyeh bila-bila kau rasa kau hendak.
Aku pun manusia,
Aku pun pernah dan akan rasa macam mana kau rasa,
Mungkin masalah kita tak serupa,
Tapi aku faham kita semua sama.
Aku usaha untuk jaga hati semua,
Maka tolong,
Usahalah untuk jaga hati aku sama.
Bilamana kau tahu yang aku tak kuat,
Aku mudah rapuh,
Jadi tolong,
Jangan biar aku jatuh.
Aku sedih bila ada yang tak pedulikan aku,
Bila aku ternganga tak tahu mana silap aku,
Bila kau senyap beribu batu.
Siapa aku?
Tak pentingkah aku?
Bukan sahabatkah aku?
Tolonglah,
Jangan seksa hati ini,
Sebab aku selalu,
Usaha untuk jaga hati semua.
***
Aku sendiri bukan kerna aku sunyi
Aku sendiri sebab aku ingin bermuhasabah diri,
Kau tahu kenapa?
Banyak sangat dosa aku,
Sampai bila terfikir,
Aku menjadi kaku.
Bila manusia bagi hati ini kecewa,
Saat itu baru aku sedar bahawa Allah itu sentiasa ada.
Segala perasaan yang kita rasa,
Allah beri kerana ada hikmahnya.
Maka kita sebagai hamba yang hina,
Bersyukurlah kerana masih bisa merasa nikmatNya.
***
Kalau kita nak hidup kita berubah,
Kita sendiri kena ubah hidup kita.
Itu je,
Kalau tak,
Kau, aku, kita, semua.
Hopeless,
Worthless,
Useless,
And most importantly,
Nothing.
***
Lama aku lupa Tuhan,
Lama aku bersendirian,
Lama aku fikirkan.
Akhirnya aku temui jawapan,
Kenapa hidup aku kacau bagai dilanda taufan,
Kerana aku selalu lupa,
Tuhan atas lagi dari awan,
Tuhan itu lagi menawan,
Tuhan raja segala kerajaan.
Ya, ini satu peringatan.
Silence is golden
it's been a year since i haven't updated anything in blog. i bet all of you are missing me badly. awh *grabs popcorn* okay one of my fellow followers told me i stopped spreading da'wah. no i'm not. lately, i'm so busy preparing for my upcoming exams (eleh) so wish me luck on mid-year test :)
 wut? my topic today is about silence is golden? oh bytheway, i haven't updated anything on new year *pftttt* happy new year everyone xD (it's too late) at least i still wish ok..:p so, 2014 has been the toughest year..all the disaster that happened in Malaysia. MH370, MH17 and so on. uh-huh it's not a bad thing. there must be some reasons why all of those  SILENCE IS GOLDEN when you have nothing worth saying, it's better to remain silent. in the words of Mark Twain 'it is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all your possible doubt. every single that we utter is a du'a. say good things or remain silent. your bad words may hurt others' feelings. remember, when you're angry, keep silent, your silence may hurt the ones you love but your nasty words can break and damage them beyond repair. have you ever heard this word? "tongue is sharper than the sword", this is a phrase that we frequently hear. this expression contains figurative language which means tongue is used to replace the word 'word'. tongue is an important organ in producing words until our tongue become imperfect and spread bad words. in other words, the expression will state that words are sharper than a sword. in the past until now, sword becomes one of the dreaded weapons.but if words turns out to be sharper than a sword, as sharp as what is says?? // Praise well, who doesn't like to be praised? hm (almost) everyone likes to be praised, it's a human nature to like to be praised and dislike to be criticized. in fact, there is a trend we prefer to be friends with people who always praise us and keep a distance away from people who always criticize us. praise can calm us while criticism can overwhelm us. however, in reality, how many people have been destroyed by compliments not because of criticism? compliments can be dangerous, it's wrapped neatly with magnificent words and make people forget about themselves, who they really are. that too much praise will inflate the ego. make people too big for their britches. did you know, what has happened to all great leaders? they have been destroyed and killed due to amusement praise by people that are close to them. on the other hand, if praise is uttered by the right people, praise can be an injection of energy to improve themselves. praise can motivate to constantly grow and develop much better. nonetheless, criticism should be accepted graciously as motivation either! perhaps, the sharpness of words doesn't exactly match to the sharpness of sword, which when scratching skin will bleed soon. however, the sharpness of words may not be visible, probably could lead to much deeper wounds, which may not fade in time.
'watch your tongue, it defines your intelligence or your stupidity.'
in short, compliments can make us forget ourselves meanwhile criticism reminds us who we really are. be humble every time receive compliments. but do not despair with contempt.
i'd like to share a story;
the bed felt soft and warm. Melisa hoped her sister Shelly wasn't asleep yet in her bed. as Melisa watched the shadows made by the moonlight streaming through the window and across the dressers and beds, they made curious gray shapes on the wall.
'i wonder what the sharpest thing in the world id,' Melisa said
'who cares about that?' responded Shelly, who thought Melisa was a nuisance when she asked so many questions
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'well, it couldn't be shadows,' Melisa said, 'even
 though they have corners, they're very soft.'
'oh, are they really?' Shelly declared sarcastically.
Melisa lay quietly for a moment, but she kept thinking. soon she said, 'if i wanted to find out what the sharpest thing in the world is, i'd start by letting every single horse bite me.'
'oh no.' moaned Shelly.
'what a dumb idea.' said Shelly. 'you couldn't do that.'
'pins are very sharp.' Melisa continued, undeterred. 'they can go through most anything. or mama's best scissors might be the sharpest thing in the world. remember how easily they cut my hair?'
'go to sleep!' Shelly said crossly.
'our sharpest knife cuts through a loaf of homemade bread in a second. but daddy's nail go through wood, oh!' Melisa cried excitedly. 'i think i know what the sharpest thing in the world is. great-great grandpa Johnson's sword! if you got poked with that it would really hurt.'
'will you please be quiet, Melisa, so i can go to sleep!'
'if i could try all the horses and dogs and pins and scissors and knives and nails and swords, then i'd know what the sharpest thing in the world is'
Shelly suddenly sat up in bed. 'Melisa.' she shouted. 'if you don't be quiet, i'm going to tell dad. i wish i had a bedroom of my own. i wish i didn't have to share a bedroom with a sister who talks all night!' then she lay down again, turned her back to Melisa and pulled the covers over her shoulder.
Melisa was quite for a long time. finally, out of darkness came a wistful voice. 'i know what the sharpest thing in the world is.'
'please be quiet.' said Shelly.
'it's words.' Melisa said quietly. 'they hurt the most'
Shelly turned over and looked at Melisa with a mixture of surprise and affection. 'oh Melisa,' she said. 'i'm sorry. i didn't mean those things i said, i like sharing my bedroom with you. and i like having you for a sister.'
the girls were both silent for a few minutes thinking. suddenly Melisa whispered, 'Shelly.'
'what now?' Shelly asked laughingly.
'i know what the softest thing in the world is,' Melisa declared thoughtfully. 'softer than shadows and darkness and pillows and kittens and blankets and moonlight.'
'tell me,' said Shelly good-naturedly. 'what's the softest thing in the world?'
'it's words,' said Melisa.
through the darkness she could almost see her sister smiling and then she felt soft arms around her and Shelly whispered, 'oh, Melisa, i love you.'
 How to stop doing same sins repeatedly?
 Who isn't sad when repeatedly commit them same mistakes over and over again after being determined to change. Who isn't stressed when spinning the same mistakes though was determined not to repeat again. Who did not cry when the sin which we have been able to leave it in quite some time, we finally defeated and repeat the sin. ☹ Who is sad and crying about it? Once we have the heart of life, if we have faith even a single bit, definitely being sad, depressed, anxious, nervous, despondent and regret haunt our minds! (>'.'<) But until when?!?! Until when? How long do we want to repeat that we hate sins, for how long we want to stay jailed in pressure sin and evil? Until when, O friend..! Writing this, I write with a sense of guilt, with the hope that my own sin is free from the prison ordeal, with the hope of that the writer can provide some guidance, spirit, strength, inspiration, understanding, confusion and obstacles that occur to those who STRIVE to CHANGE.  I write with tears falling down on my cheek. I am really hoping all of us can please Allah. I have seen with my eyes how people love and trust Allah, can turn out to be "weird" and proud of committing sins.. Oh... I was sad and I cried! I will try to explain you these things one by one, little by little and more detail.. 3 important points that we will soak up. 1) The extent of repentance. 2) The law of ourselves. 3) Do not commit overt sin. How extent your repentance? A lot of people asking, spilling out, wondering, being disturbed, sad, and becoming weak when thinking about this... "Does Allah will accept my repentance if I still repeat my sins?" Feeling guilty is surrounded around the people. Various types of questions as proposed to calm the agitated heart. Among the questions asking me makes me speechless: "Ukhti, I really want to change, and I had the intention to change. I always regretted of my sins, but the problem is, I still can not change! As if there was nothing to stop me .." "Ukhti, I have vowed to not want to repeat my sins, but I lost..." "Ukhti, how do we want to strip the dirty things in our minds..?" "Ukhti, how to stay away from sins? Tell me. I will try to change your guidance.." "Ukhti, if we do not shed tears of repentance, does our repentance are not sincere?" "Ukhti, I always commit sin, then repent, then I repeat the sin and repent. But I can not take it anyome and repeat the sins again, then turned back. Does Allah will accept my repentance?" And so on... O friends.. How extent your repentance that really sincere? What is the meaning of repentance? I want to explain about repentance from several angles. I hope we really understand, appreciate, and feel that Allah is ever Forgiving. 1) Repentance means we feel guilty of sins, repent, ask for forgiveness and resolve not to repeat the error. That's 3 pillars of repentance. Guilt, ask for forgiveness, and committed we not want to commit the sins repeatedly. 2) But as far as we are sincere in repentance? We can just pray and du'a: "O Allah, I'm sorry for committing sins and I regret. So.. please forgive me. I and determined not to repeat my sins over and over again!" But the fact is, in the corner of our hearts, the du'a is nothing but posing no slightest regret and repent. Sincerity in repentance only the knowledge of Allah and ourselves! If we are sincere, the feeling of conscious would come! Crying is one of the proofs we are honest with our regret. Not just that, feelings of regret is eventually cause us to do all possible to leave the sins that we regret. If that happens, then that's our sincere repentance. 3) After we repent with sincerely but NEGLIGENCE OF OUR WEAKNESS unimpossible for us to slip and fall again into the same hole. However, if we are SINCERE in our first repentance, He will forgive us in advance, and for the sin which we have just made, we need to repent again. If we are defeated again, then repent again. Allah is a Forgiver. But sincerity cannot pretend and act!  4) It should be understood, we're weak and humiliated! Sometimes, we fall again into the same hole after repent. We fall in the same hole does not mean we are insincere in our repentance before. But this is because of our weakness, we fall in the same hole even before this we had realized. If things like this happen (already repent, caused the weakness, we repeat the same sins and blah blah blah..) Hence, we have to repent over and over again every time we commit sin. Do not give up! Once we despair, it means the devil successful influence us. But Allah will never weary to forgive us no matter how bad we are!  That's Allah's Forgiver. But, do not take advantage of! However, it has been said by Ibn Qayyim: "The most foolish man is the one who knows Allah is ever Forgiving. Hence, he made that excuses for him to commit sins." We don't know when we die. Once, we died when committing sins. Pewh. Once, we died when we are not repent yet.. big mistake! And that's why.. do not delay repent, if could, after reading this entry, please repent! o(╥﹏╥)o But remember, repentance can not act. It issues HEART. People nowdays, many people think when he has repented but in his heart, there's no bit of guilt even when committing sins. What the heck? Our law. I want to share to everyone about these things. This method is the best method for us to improve ourselves and the best way to make us no longer tempted committing sins. I call this as: "The way to manipulate the devils." In this way, as if the satan would "incite" us to leave sins (supposedly). The trick is WE JUDGE OURSELF after committing vices and sins! Yeah. We all knew that satan would tell us to do things that hurt us and rewarding him. So, when we committing sin, it hurt us and please the satan! But, if we judge ourselves, it is very effective! Let me explain a way to manipulate satan: 1) We determined, each time we commit a sin, we will punish ourselves with a good charity. For example, we target: "Every time I suck cigarette, I will read the quran 1 constituents!" "If I see the video is not good, I will alms RM50 at the mosque and then I will fast three days!" "If I'm not going congregation dawn prayers at the mosque, I will fine myself to read religious books of 100 pages!" 2) When we punish ourselves by the law, then the satan will begin to doubt whether we do not commit sins or not. Because if he tempts us to suck cigarette, he knew that we would fine ourselves by reading the quran 1 constituent. Reading one constituent of the quran is very detrimental to the satan and increase our faith multiplied! 3) In the Arabic language, this way is called "Iqob" which means "fine". That's what the companions do! I'll story a few examples of IQOB that the companions do: "There's a companion, while he was praying at the garden, suddenly in the middle of the prayer, he saw a bird and the bird cause he is not humble. After performing prayers, his friend noticed that he was not humble and he regretted. Thus, he contribute the garden to the Muslims!"
4) I want to advance any evidence, how effectively this way! So that the satan would incited us to leave sin! How valuable the law when we fine ourselves every time we commit sins!
Do not commit overt sins!
Seriously this thing do take note. For once when we commit a blatant sin, it means that we are very proud committing sins and that is the beginning of self destruction! I guess everybody knows what is a sin. I just want to sample some of the common sins that people frequently do without guilt.
1) Firstly, ikhtilat. But the problem is, nowdays, a lot of people know but proudly chatting in cyberspace outright as a comment "hahahah", tweeting on twitter with bravely mention names, comment on instagram and others. What? Is this a smart, macho yet sweet friends?
If you can't control the ikhtilat, do not commit it outright. Please, feel ashamed ppl know the vices that we do. If you really want to commit, please in private messages, direct messages and the same thing with it (even though it is wrong). The point is, feeling ashamed when committing sins.
2) Secondly, watching a movie and listening lagha song. Do we need to tell others about the lagha song? Whereas we already knew the law of listening Kpop songs, Justin bieber, lady gaga, and berates oriented songs illegally. We already knew!
But why we are proud to tell people that we are listening to the laghasongs? For example on twitter:
"#Nowplaying Wrecking Ball // Miley Cyrus." "#Nowplaying Gangnam Style // PSY." "#Nowwatching Titanic."
If you can not leave lagha songs and movies, do not tell others and feel shy! If you want to to it, please do it unaccompanied.
I am very appealing, please taste the guilt and shame. Take care and do not tell others of our embarassment. Allah has kept our embarrassment. Why do we must tell others about the sins that we do?
The irony is the best way to leave dices is to do good deeds as much as possible with istiqamah. Please salah.. Never leave it. I'm very appealing!
Start from now, familiarize yourself with prayer, start familiarized yourself with the Quran, wet your tongue with remembrances of Allah. And please, find friend who can support you for your changes and chatting with them. Follow them tarbiyyah and usrah, it is the centerpiece of our faith in order to be safe! I'm sure, a lot of people who want to change. Stay strong, to keep the spirit, move forward, move on. Do not mind what people say, du'a to Allah! I believe that we can. Once we are able to change, we will crying joy, tears of gratitude and tears of happiness of His favors. And we will repent sadly and laugh to ourselves...because it is strange for us us who love committing sins as if it is very painful. I'll pray for you all. And I want to seek your favor, please pray for me. May Allah reward us Jannah. Ameen. ◕‿◕ L.O.V.E.
LOVE?
Who says that we can't love someone?
LOVE
Allah
The Prophet
Parents
Siblings
Friends
Teachers
And our sisters and brothers at the other country.
Love them for the sake of Allah.
It isn't wrong when you are in love.
But It is wrong when you bring her to the wrong way. (etc: couple)
***  Falling in love: Allowed in Islam. "I saw a young man and a young woman and I didn't trust the shaytan not to tempt them." Narrated by Al-Tirmizi (885) and classed as hasan by Al-Albaani in Saheh Al-Tirmizi. This doesn't mean that it is haram for a man or woman to like a specific person whom he or she chooses to be a spouse and feel love fo that person and want to marry them if possible. Love has to do with the heart and it may appear in a person's heart for reasons know or unknown. But, if it is because of mixing or looking or haram conversation then it is also haram. If it is because of previous acquaintance, being related or because of hearing about that person, and one can't ward it off. Then there is nothing wrong with that love, so long as one adheres to the sacred limits set by Allah.
Well.. Allah said in Quran. [17:32]
"And do not approach unlawful (before marriage) sexual intercouse. Indeed, it is ever and immorality and is evil as a way."
Dear men,
If you love her,
Marry her. Be an Imam.
If you love her.
Protect and guide her.
If you are truly love her.
Lead her to Jannah. Not to the hell.
*** Marry a woman who completely loves her deen, so that you may love each other for eternity in a place where there is no hate; Jannah. Marry the type of woman who will teach her children how to love Allah, will say to you, "Hold my and let's walk towards Jannah." When you marry someone only for his/her appearance, it is not love but attraction. Marry a spouse for their deen and who will lead you to Jannah. ***  A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously commited, so she may want to marry him. But contact between the two who admire on another in ways that aren't Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads to disastrous consequances. In this case it is not permissible for the man to get in touch with the woman of for the woman to in touch with the man and say that he wants to marry her. Rather, he should tell her guardian (wali) that he wants to marry her and vice versa. As Umar did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and Uthmaan. But if the woman contacts the man directly , this is may leads to slander. (fitnah) ***  The permissible ways to get the one whom you loves are sufficient i.e, Contact the guardian (wali) of the person whom you desire to marry. There is no need to haram means, but we make it hard for ourselves and the shaytan takes advantage of that. Marriage
Islam teaches us that marriage is the finest, purest and permissible relationship that should exist between a male and female. It should be the goal that they both have in mind.
***
Become realized in your attributed and he will strengthen you with His:
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